What assumptions are holding you back?
What do people assume about you that isn’t true?
Take a second to think about that and how it makes you feel.
Now flip it.
What assumptions are you making about other people?
Your boss.
Your colleagues.
Your career.
Your next step.
Yourself.
What have you already decided to be true, without ever checking?
Last week, a woman said to me backstage at a gig,
“You’re so polished.”
I was just sat on a chair, not even speaking. I smiled.
Because it’s interesting what people decide about you and then they build a whole story around it.
Sometimes polished gets translated as posh. Well spoken. Certain upbringing. Had it easy.
I’ve had versions of that said to me my whole life.
The reality is I’m from a working class family in Hounslow, West London; and certainly not from a privileged background.
Assumptions are quick to make and often completely wrong.
The tricky part is most people don’t even realise they’re doing it.
Assumptions don’t just shape how we see others. They shape how we see ourselves.
They influence decisions, confidence, and what we rule out before we’ve even tried.
That’s where your world can start to feel small.
I once challenged a client who’d made an incorrect assumption about the time of our coaching session.
With her permission, I reflected that this wasn’t just about our calendar, and it seemed to be a wider pattern in her life.
She was assuming a lot in other areas too.
It was a light bulb moment.
Curiosity on the other hand, opens things up and creates options and helps us question what we’ve accepted as fact.
I love getting curious with my clients and asking them:
Is that actually true? What else could be true?
So I’ll leave you with this:
Where are you operating from assumptions instead of curiosity?
And what might open up if you questioned it?
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