WOMEN WHO DON’T SUPPORT WOMEN
The music industry's long been a boys’ club and the stats still back it up.
There's still not remotely enough women in leadership roles.
But what about when it’s not men holding us back?
What about when it’s other women?
In my coaching space, I hear this too often.
Women who say they’ve been passed over, undermined, or left out, by other women.
Women claiming to be supportive of other women, only to align themselves with the power and the men at the top, when it comes to the crunch.
They talk about lifting women up - but block promotions, take credit, and protect their own interests instead.
It leaves us guarded. Confused. Wondering if we can trust the women around us, when deep down, we’re craving support, honesty, and real solidarity.
I've been lucky enough to work with some wonderfully supportive women in my career, but I've also felt the betrayal of women behaving this way.
And yet, since moving to New York, I’ve experienced something magical.
I’ve been welcomed by a circle of women in music who show up for each other fully, and genuinely lift each other up. The energy has been one of support, honesty, and positivity.
No power games.
No politics.
Just care and a safe space to discuss our concerns and needs.
It's given me hope and has reminded me; this is what we CAN build.
We can choose to support one another and show up for other women and create a new future. We get to decide what kind of leader we want to be.
One where we don’t buy into the lie that there’s only space for ONE woman at the top.
You might’ve had to fight your way to the top alone, but that doesn’t mean we leave the next woman to do the same.
A new future where we refer, recommend, celebrate, and we have each other's backs.
Because when women truly back each other, it's felt.
The rooms feel safer.
We get braver.
We stop shrinking to fit in.
So here’s my invitation to you:
Talk her up in the room.
Share her name when she’s not there.
Check in with her. Ask her how she's really doing.
Back her, even if no one else is.
Be the woman you wish had backed you.
Be the woman who changes the story.
Let’s build something better together.
Start now:
Contact a woman who’s supported you in your career, and tell her what it meant to you.
